Who says long distance relationships end in misery? It can actually work when both couples decide to make it work! Here are a few tips on how to making your long distance relationship work. First, both partners should agree that they believe that the long distance relationship can thrive. Decisions like this should be taken seriously by both partners. If one partner is hesitant about the idea of a long distance relationship, it is better not to pursue it, than ending breaking up with each other down the line. Together the partners should discuss topics like commitment, security and contentment with regards to their relationship. These aspects are the strong foundation that couples should assess in order to have some perspective on whether or not their long distance relationship will work. The personalities of the couples need to be assessed also. There are some people who are comfortable seeing their partners for only a few times a month and are satisfied with talking on the phone often. These types of personalities are usually common to workaholic people. On the other hand, there are people who are very affectionate, that they can’t stand being away from their partners for too long. These types of personalities have a difficult time handling a long distance relationship.
Second, keep the communication open. Set a time of the day to call each other by phone or talk online. It’s important to share things that are happening in your lives. It doesn’t have to be a major life event; even the most minute experiences like going to the mall, spending time with friends and buying groceries can be a point of communication that holds you together. The more you talk often with your partner, the more you feel each other’s company and not realizing that you are far away. Also, set a time to discuss matters about your relationship as a whole. You can include things like how you are able to cope up with the long distance relationship and how you feel for each other with the new situation that you are in. Communication is a very important key to a successful relationship, all the more in a long distance setting.
Third, try to deal with issues and resolve them as they come up; don’t let them fester. Remember, it is difficult to settle a fight especially in a long distance relationship because you cannot just go to your partner and ask for apology whenever you want to. Most of the time, pride comes in during a fight. One partner may decide not to call or communicate to the other. In this case, it becomes very difficult to resolve the problem because one partner chooses to draw back and to keep quiet to a point and act as if “nothing has happened.” To avoid this, pick your battles and try to settle petty issues immediately when they arise. Don’t wait for it to become a major fight before you act on it.
Lastly, stay committed and trust your partner. If you are sure that your partner is the right one for you, then don’t make the long distance relationship complicated for both of you. Be committed and don’t stray when your partner is away. Whether or not you get caught, these behaviors dry up the relationship and in the end will destroy it. An equally important tip to commitment is trusting your partner. Issues may arise and negative thoughts may come out. Discuss your concerns with your partner. If he/she says that things are not as they appear, then you basically you have to trust him/her. If he/she is telling the truth, then you saved the relationship an unnecessary fight and misunderstandings. On the other hand, if he is lying, don’t worry about it because it will come out into the open soon. In the end, it will be a win-win situation for you.