If you’ve followed some dating advice when it comes to getting men to chase you, many will say in order to do that, you have to let the guy drive to remain interested. While this may be true, once a relationship is established it needs to shift to a more equal plane. If you are feeling like he still has the wheel all of the time, then it is time to take it over until there is a balance. Keep reading to learn how to take control back in your relationship.
Admit Your Faults
If you have no control whatsoever in your relationship, the first thing you have to recognize is that, to some degree, you let this happen. I am not trying to say that you are a bad person, just that you do bear some of the blame in this. Recognizing what mistakes you have made and resolving not to let that happen again is the first step.
Make Your Move
Now that you have recognized your piece of the blame for the relationship getting to where it is now, it is time for the second step, which is to change your behavior. Become more assertive and let him know without a doubt that he is not going to control every aspect of the relationship. Inform him that your happiness is falling, and that some changes need to be made. There are two ways he will go with this.
Continue or Cease?
Depending on how he acts about this new assertiveness from you will determine which step three you take. On one hand he may be happy about the new you and enjoy the fact that you are taking a more active role in the relationship. Having some input in the decision-making will relieve him of some of the pressure that he’s been feeling. If it has been just the two of you, perhaps your friends and his can be graced with your presence again.
The other way he can go on this is to be bullheaded and resistant, not liking your new attitude and unwilling to compromise. If he goes this way, then it is recommended that things between the two of you are ended. Not only does his resistance stifle growth in the relationship, it can be a bad omen of things to come. You don’t want to remain in the relationship and end up in an even worse situation than you are now. If he stands against you the entire way, it could very well be a sign that he’s a control freak and he just may go to extreme measures to hold onto that. If he’s not willing to give share the reins, it’s time to say goodbye.
Now you know what you need to do to take the power back in your relationship. The only thing left now is to go do it. For more tips on creating or restoring a balance in your relationship, subscribe to my newsletter for everything you need to know about dating, relationships, and love.