When talking to a guy there’s two things that will create interest for him. The first is you as a person (something that you can’t change so easily) and secondly is what you do during the conversation. You see, when a guy is talking to you he’s looking for those little hints that show him if you are or aren’t interested in him as well as general things that might turn him off.
So, this article is going to focus on some simple tips that will make you desirable in a conversation. It’s not about changing your whole way of life but more changing the way you interact with any particular guy so that you can create attraction.
Finally, know that when using these simple tips you need to already be interested in the guy yourself. There’s no point in getting him interested if you aren’t interested in him.
The truth is that, most guys like most girls however, these simple tips will help you stand out from the crowd and give you a better chance at gaining his interest.
Simple Tip 1. Smile Often
I know this may seem obvious but unless a guy gets a smile out of you, he’ll be more than sure that his advances aren’t working. So, if you want to make a guy feel like his doing a good job, jiggle at his jokes, smile when you look at him even if there’s no particular reason. No guy can resist a girl with a beautiful smile.
Simple Tip 2. Be a Woman
Men are attracted by women who know how to play the woman role. As women are almost always attracted to chivalrous men, men are attracted to graceful and coy women. Do not misunderstand coy with shy and timid. It’s not about that.
Have that female flare about you, make him think “OMG she’s so sweet”, flutter your hair, gaze into his eyes, have your own cute expressions – be feminine. This attracts men more than you can imagine. If you learn to be a lovable lady, any guy will want to become your knight in shining armor.
Simple Tip 3. Touch Him
In my personal opinion, touching should always be initiated by the man, however, in this day and age there are a lot of guys that don’t know their place in the world so… if you want to impress him a LOT and I do mean a LOT here, touch him. It’s that simple. Studies have actually proven that both sexes involuntarily start showing more interest and flirt more when they get touched by the other person in the middle of a conversation.
So, if he isn’t touching you (thus showing some interest) touch him yourself! Occasionally, touch his forearm or place your palm on the edge of his shoulder, or any other place that would be appropriate for casual touches, and you’ll see how his interest in you would grow in no time.
Simple Tip 4. Let Him Be a Man
Instinctually men love to protect and provide for their women. When you connect with a man at this level he won’t even know why he is attracted to you. You can do this with very simple things like: holding his arm while crossing the street, smile shyly and ask if he can hold your heavy shopping for a minute, hold his hand as a big scary dog comes near you, be afraid and seek shelter in him when watching a scary movie. Basically make him feel as if he was your protector and he will want to be by your side all the time.
Simple Tip 5. Don’t be a Bitch and don’t talk Dirty
Unfortunately bad words and foul language should never come out of a girl’s mouth, well maybe during sex… but that’s a different story. Most men are TURNED OFF by women that use foul language and they are also turned off by bad people. If you constantly bitch about your coworkers, people on the street, your friends he’ll class you as a bad person and quickly lose interest.
Simple Tip 6. Be Mysterious
As much as men won’t admit this, they find mysterious girls attractive. This happens because if you keep that aura of mystery about you he will constantly want to know more… if you tell him everything from the start he might lose interest but by keeping parts of your life a mystery he will come back asking for more.
Even if your life isn’t all that interesting, he doesn’t have to know it and by keeping that mystery about you it will make him think that you’re so much more interesting. Finally, make sure you stop being mysterious when you’ve got a boyfriend otherwise he’s going to think you’re cheating on him.
Simple Tip 7. Be Mischievous
Sometimes things are going to well for a guy and it gets to his head. There’s nothing like a mischievous girl to bring him back to the ground and show him that things aren’t as he thought. So, make sure you tease him, nudge him by the shoulder, say a few jokes etc. Guys like a girl that is cute, sweet and all of that but it can get boring so, show him that you’ve got a naughty side too.
Simple Tip 7. Show Appreciation and Genuine Interest
If you expect a guy to become interested in you, you need to be interested in him. Basically, when he talks, listen, ask related questions and show him appreciation for what he says and does. It’s only natural that once he likes you, he’ll try hard to impress you, show him some acknowledgement for this and he will love you for it. Most girls take such things for granted and over time the guy looses interest. Don’t be that girl, play it safe and show him that you appreciate him.
Simple Tip 8. Don’t Make It Too Easy
There’s this thing with men, the moment we 100% know we can have something, we lose interest. That’s why it’s always a good idea to play hard to get. Now I’m not talking about high-school hard to get games but, just make his life a little harder than it can actually be. Make him work for you if you want him to cherish you later. Speak with him in a pleasant manner but never let him take you for granted. Also, the older you get the harder it is to make this happen so it’s important to always be aware of this and try to keep a good balance between how bad you want him and how bad you want him to know about it.
In conclusion, these may seem like obvious things but many women overlook them. Now that you actually know how they work, you can keep a closer eye on what you are doing.